{"id":5,"date":"2006-12-27T20:15:03","date_gmt":"2006-12-28T04:15:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.chesnok.com\/daily\/?p=5"},"modified":"2016-12-18T14:35:11","modified_gmt":"2016-12-18T22:35:11","slug":"marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.chesnok.com\/daily\/2006\/12\/27\/marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote>\n<p>With engagement a lot of women feel there&#039;s enormous pressure to show their worth.  I read <a href=\"http:\/\/www.indiebride.com\/interviews\/wicoff\/index.html\">this article<\/a> today. Getting married is a crazy process &#8211; I changed my name, invited my estranged father (who didn&#039;t show up) and my biological father, (who stole the show) and was witness to my mother&#039;s first meeting with my father since before I was born. There was that, and all the getting married parts. Now that I&#039;ve had some time to reflect, the event went well. I spent time on the things that I cared about (cupcakes, postcards, art) and with the people I wanted to spend time with. I enjoyed most of the planning, and none of the aftermath. We didn&#039;t go into debt. Watching a friend&#039;s wedding unfold gave me a little insight into the way other women view the marriage process &#8212; the culmination of years of work and training. The execution of childhood fantasies. A recognition of one&#039;s worth. They are so happy. My experience was just not the same. There was joy, but no overwhelming validation. I think what&#039;s different was that I questioned my participation in every thing, except creating the vows. When we made our vows, I was aware and in the moment. Otherwise, I think that I let the situation run away with me.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>With engagement a lot of women feel there&#039;s enormous pressure to show their worth. I read this article today. Getting married is a crazy process &#8211; I changed my name, invited my estranged father (who didn&#039;t show up) and my &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.chesnok.com\/daily\/2006\/12\/27\/marriage\/\">Continue reading &rarr;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-postgresql"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.chesnok.com\/daily\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.chesnok.com\/daily\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.chesnok.com\/daily\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.chesnok.com\/daily\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.chesnok.com\/daily\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.chesnok.com\/daily\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5387,"href":"https:\/\/www.chesnok.com\/daily\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5\/revisions\/5387"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.chesnok.com\/daily\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.chesnok.com\/daily\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.chesnok.com\/daily\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}